Did you know that our education often fails to match our profession? Only about 46 percent of college graduates work in the field they learned in school. One study found that of those enrolling in a course of study, only about five percent will be in it two years after graduation. The false promise of …

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You should read last week’s blog. It’s called “Why I Quit Pastoring in Hawaii.” An angry friend emailed, describing the article as “rude, hateful, arrogant, harsh, prideful & verges on stupidity.” I wouldn’t have thought that but to each his own. My deeper opinion might be even more upsetting if the blog was all my …

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I’m not your pastor, and this is not a church. One Sunday in early 1984, I informed Hope Chapel Kaneohe Bay that I was no longer their pastor and that we were no longer a church. Their church was their microchurch. Their pastor was their microchurch pastor. Were a convention of churches. My job was …

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It can be lonely at the top. You may be surrounded by people who adore you. Yet the pedestal where they put you is a lonely place. Church problems rest on the shoulders of leaders—further isolation. Even the news is enough to drive you to distraction. Every time you read of the church shrinking or …

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As shepherds of Jesus’ flock, we sometimes overlook the need for a bit of self-protection. Some friends are better than others—some friendships are dangerous (aside from sexual temptations).   Some are more pronounced in smaller churches, especially in newly planted congregations but all merit a look. Here’s the deal; there are people who long to …

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Pastor’s families live in semi-isolation because congregations hold them on a pedestal. However, a larger problem is isolation of the pastor from their family.   This is because our jobs are never ending, and we get so busy we forget our personal priorities. Many pastors leave ministry because of root problem of loneliness in their …

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Loneliness in leadership is never fun. It’s also less than necessary when it comes to living on a pedestal.   Pastors are often surrounded by people who elevate them as super Christians. We’re already called by God to live to a higher standard so it’s no fun being judged by one that is entirely artificial. …

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