A Leader’s Personal Needs

It can be lonely at the top. You may be surrounded by people who adore you. Yet the pedestal where they put you is a lonely place. Church problems rest on the shoulders of leaders—further isolation. Even the news is enough to drive you to distraction. Every time you read of the church shrinking or …

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As shepherds of Jesus’ flock, we sometimes overlook the need for a bit of self-protection. Some friends are better than others—some friendships are dangerous (aside from sexual temptations).   Some are more pronounced in smaller churches, especially in newly planted congregations but all merit a look. Here’s the deal; there are people who long to …

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Pastor’s families live in semi-isolation because congregations hold them on a pedestal. However, a larger problem is isolation of the pastor from their family.   This is because our jobs are never ending, and we get so busy we forget our personal priorities. Many pastors leave ministry because of root problem of loneliness in their …

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Loneliness in leadership is never fun. It’s also less than necessary when it comes to living on a pedestal.   Pastors are often surrounded by people who elevate them as super Christians. We’re already called by God to live to a higher standard so it’s no fun being judged by one that is entirely artificial. …

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Pastors are leaving vocational ministry at an alarming rate. Coupled with slow church planting, the problem threatens the church’s existence. The pandemic accelerated the pain, but this is systemic and ongoing.   As we wonder what can be done, I want to spend a few weeks exploring possible solutions on this website.   This Is …

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John 15 has a hold on me. I can’t seem to get out of the chapter and the one before it. I’ve been talking with several hurting friends. They’ve been pruned, and they don’t appreciate it. They’re fussed up because things aren’t going to plan. Perhaps they (and we) don’t get that pruning is an honor …

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You could call this article “Where have all the people gone?” Or “Why are so many pastors leaving?”   Churches are smaller, and not everyone who left is home watching Andy Stanley on YouTube. Most of those who are gone are just that—gone!   Truth is, churches and leaders are a smaller band on the …

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